Dealing with incest is one of the most horrifying experiences that families have to handle. This is because it involves someone they love violating another person in the same family. At times, the desire to prevent the person they love from facing the legal consequences of their action makes the violated person go without justice. The fact is that sexual abuse, whether by a stranger or by a family member, is both traumatizing and stressing. The victim may suffer severe physiological and emotional trauma. This kind of abuse can affect the life of the victim largely.
Incest takes power and innocence from the victimized children. The sad thing is that many kids tend to keep the issue a secret to avoid being victimized or due to shame that comes with sexual abuse. However, in case you have been abused by a person you are emotionally attached by the fact that they are your relative, you can get empowered again. Remember that the perpetrator will always be in control so long as you remain stuck in shame and guilt. Adult survivors of childhood abuse remains controlled victims all their lives. The only way an abused person can enjoy empowerment and freedom is through disclosure.
By disclosure, we mean talking the truth about sexual abuse. Remember that no one has the mandate to force someone who has been sexually abused to confront their abusers. There are different ways of letting the right people know about sexual violence, and there is no one best way. Since incest breaks one’s trust in people, it is very important for the victim to delicately and carefully decide on their own how to go about the disclosure. The most paramount thing is to ensure that they do not keep it a secret.
At times, one may choose to disclose the ordeal to a good friend, a sister, or lover who they trust. Some people may find peace if they express their emotions through music, painting, or writing. The fact is that one is as sick as the secret that they keep. No matter how long you take to let someone know about it, your empowerment wholly depends on letting people hear your story of incest.
When it comes to disclosing about sexual abuse, there is no best time to do so. This may not be the right time. The right time is when you are ready to let someone learn about your experience. When you feel ready to talk about your ordeal, look for someone you can trust to tell. However, remember that your fulfillment, empowerment and happiness in your life will depend on it. If you fail to disclose, your pain will seethe and stagnant, crippling you emotionally. In many instances, people who have survived incest may turn to be abusive to their children also.
In case you are still not sure who can talk to about your experiences, you can consider talking to professionals’. The good thing is that they will not judge you and will handle your experience more soberly. Check online for an organization that help incest victims.